I really never thought that I would be that parent.. that parent that would have to be counseled for language issues!! I am going to start by saying that I am not perfect, but generally I don’t have a foul mouth!
Yesterday, I overheard Jaden on the stairs talking to Shyla. He kept saying…”Kiss my Ass” He was giggling about it. I waited a minute and then heard him say it again. So, I went to the stairs, asked him to come talk with me. He came right down, but with a look of…I am in trouble now… I did not yell at him, I did not even get a stern tone. I simply asked “Jaden, you can not say that to your sister, or anyone else. Where did you hear that from?” I really expected him to say from his dad, but he did not. He said “they say it on tv all the time.” Not liking that answer, I simply told him that he could not watch that type of tv, and that no one should ever say that to anyone else.
A little bit later, maybe an hour passes, and Jaden went out to the car to get his backpack. Shyla followed him outside. I waited a minute and they did not come in, so I slightly open the door and hear Jaden again “kiss my ass, kiss my ass, kiss my ass” He did not just say it once, he said it 3 times really fast. Sean was inside the house cleaning up from dinner, and I had not talked with him about the earlier moment we had. So I helped myself to going outside, looked at Jaden and told him to meet me in the kitchen. I got Shyla out of the car and came into the house. Jaden is already saying that he did not do anything, which ultimately means he knows he has done something wrong! I still kept my calm, and picked him up, and sat him on the counter. Generally I would have raised my voice, maybe yelled, stood him in the corner, something. I did not, I simply kept my cool. I picked him up put him on the counter, pulled out tabasco, and gave him a 1/2 teaspoon while saying “I told you not to talk with that, if you want to talk with that filth, I will let you taste what filth is.” Needless to say he spit it on me. I still tried to stay calm, and gave him another 1/2 tsp, he did not spit that one on me!
Sean and I talked about it, and we both agreed, that this was not good. He then informed me about some stuff with tabasco that I did not know about… so I probably will not be doing that again. I just wanted something with an immediate response, and understanding. I really thought that it worked… notice I did say THOUGHT! Sean and I when talking about it, agreed that we had never said that to each other, and that he must have been telling the truth, about hearing it on the tv.
So, today I pick up Jaden from class, and the teacher comes and tells me, that she had a problem with Jaden saying a bad word to his friend in class. I asked “was it the ass word?” she said “no, it was the S h i t word.” I told her that I had not heard that one, but that I would try to take care of it. She said “you need to tell him how he talks at home, is not allowed in certain places” I tried to quickly explain that it is not allowed at home either. So… hear I am trying to explain to the teacher that I don’t approve of the language at home, or anywhere else, I felt like I was being scolded. So now this is what 3 times this year I have felt like I was the one into trouble, and I don’t even get to go to school.
I know that she is doing her job, but teachers have to know, that just because a child does something does not always mean that it is something that is permitted at home!? Right?? So anyways to tell the truth, again I am not perfect, and I will not pretend to let you believe that I have never said that word, because I have. Do I use it regularly, no way. Even my friends don’t usually hear me use foul language, it is just not something that I think should be said all the time, I don’t condemn anyone for saying bad words, I just try not to say them myself. My husband on the other hand has a very foul mouth. He tries to watch it around the kids, but well he is way far from perfect!!
So, how do you handle this type of situation? What disciple is ample? Right now, from the school till now, I have only talked with it to Jaden. I don’t know if punishing him is warranted or not???
If you have had a day, or days how did you handle it??
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